Mambozzz...
Kwema? Kuna siku nilikua very honest humu ndani nikasema kua I've never lived with a man in my life... Sjui kuhusu wewe.. Look around you, angalia dada zako, wifi, mama wadogo, majirani na marafiki wa kike.. Kuna yeyote anaishi na mwanamume nje ya ndoa? Ni kipi hasa kinapelekea a couple to move in together? Kwa wale waliomo ndani already, je uliangalia pros and cons za Come We Stay?
Kuna article niliona gazeti la The Guardian 27th May 2011 iliandikwa na Angel Navuri...
" `Come we stay ni a system ambayo many partners like using it thinking that they can get the right partner to marry, but at this time they try to observe each other’s behavior if they could be a perfect couple in life, many of them succeed and end up getting married.
But after some time hell breaks loose and the house is on fire, no peace at home any more the honeymoon is over, and no-one is calling the other sweet names any more.
At the time of ‘come we stay’, the lovers don’t think that each of them will try to hide his or her bad behaviour so that they may be able to marry. After that everyone starts showing his or her true colours; this is the mistake that many of them make and end up regretting why he or she got married.
This is a system that the new generation likes applying, but not thinking that its not the best way to get a partner as they assume as the man will either start dating other women or the lady could also start dating other men too and yet they are staying together."
Apart from either of the couple kuanza kuonyesha tabia zao halisi - Kama ni mvutaji sigara ndo anaaza, mlevi kupindukia ndo anakuonyesha, club hadi alfajiri anaendeleza, mchafu ndo utakoma, mtumiaji mbaya wa hela ndo anaonyesha vizuri..nk.
Na pia kumbuka kwa Roman Catholics huruhusiwi kushiriki the Holy Communion kama upo kwenye Come We Stay.
Anyway maybe nitakuwa naangalia upande mmoja tu. Kama upo kwenye relationship ya namna hii tusaidie kujibu maswali yaliyopo hapo juu... Tufahamishane!!!
Have a lovely day..
xoxo
mh imenigusa, i applied it, and to date we are married, have a son, ambae tulimpata kipindi hicho........ so far it has worked for me, yanayotokea ktk ndoa sasa nayaona ni yale yale yanayotokea kwa general population.
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ReplyDeletemimi nimeshaishi na two very good guys, ambae mmoja wapo is my husband today. wakwanza ilikua enzi za chuoni tulikua tunasoma chuo kimoja abroad so it made sense kukaa wote cz @ the same time tulikua tunasave costs etc.
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Me too nime wahi kukutana nayo hii au niseme nimeshawahi kui apply.. truth is.. imesaidia kwa kiasi kikubwa to get him to marry me.. nadiriki kusema kuwa huenda bf and gf period isinge mature to finance na marriage.. ingawa sad part is kwa sasa tumetengana after 7 yrs of marriage. lakini it has nothig to do with hiding behaviours. generaly nafikiri move in itasaidia kujua if the two of u can cop or not. kidini hairuhusiwi. and i think there is a reason beside zilizoongelea hapo. am trying to get my current bf to move in with me.. hataki na nimejua kwanini hataki.. he is not ready to marry me. na anamwanamke mwingine ambaye atashindwa kumuambia kwanini anaishi kwangu.
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